Sometimes (OK most of the time) I think I am right. Not only at work, but in life and even at home. But this past Saturday night, I was humbled by God in a way so unexpectedly.

Joe and I usually have our date night on Friday, but because of my busy week and other circumstances, we ended up out to dinner on Saturday evening. After a relaxing dinner and a trip to Braum’s for our yogart treat, we were sitting at stop light headed home. My dear husband turned to me and said, “You know, you are not as affectionate as you used to be. You used to stroke my hand or rub my neck and head as we sat at stop lights or as I was driving.”

GULP!

I couldn’t even respond. My heart was devastated. More from the knowledge that affection is MY love language and that this was something that I needed.

So many times I think “If he was more affectionate with me then I would be more affectionate with him.” But I realized that it does not work that way. I have been holding back my affection because of my own insecurities. I make excuses (don’t we all) that I am to tired and distracted by work, by our son, by ______ (insert something here).

I thank God that he can still open my eyes and humble me to the things that I am doing wrong in the relationship with my husband. I know that this can also translate into my relationship with God. If God would only ______ (insert WANT here) then I would ________ (pray more, be more involved in church, or whatever we bargain with God).

Do to others as you would have them do to you. [Luke 6:31]
And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. [Deuteronomy 6:5]