I rarely get on one of my soap boxes (OK I just did this weekend at a friends birthday party) but I have to tell you that I am so offended and taken off guard right now that I just want to scream.

I usually don’t have time to watch Oprah, but working from home today I have the program on while working. Kristen Armstrong, Lance Armstrong’s former wife, is a guest and she is sharing on her disillusion toward marriage. And of course, Oprah makes a comment saying “That is why I have never gotten married.” WHAT?!?

You would think listening to the show that marriage was all about the women loosing her identity in marriage and giving up what she wants for her husband. I AM SO OFFENDED!

MARRIAGE IS, AND CAN BE, WONDERFUL! Yes, some people get into marriage for the wrong reasons, but just like with any relationship, there is some give and take. Honesty and trust are keys.

There is nothing wrong with traditional marriage. Some people say “We will just live together and see if it works first.” That is a load of crap! You either love and trust the person or you don’t. If you have any doubts that it won’t work out then GET OUT.

I have been married for almost 3 years now and my husband and I have compromised on many things BUT NOT ONCE have I ever thought that I have lost my identity. We each still have our friends. I encourage him to meet with his best friend once a month to catch up. He encourages me to do things with girlfriends. And yet, we love to stay home and be together.

I think I am calming down a bit now but I am still irritated at the assumptions being made about marriage. You can still be yourself and be married and if you are not being yourself, then you need to examine if this is the person you are supposed to marry.

It was stated on the Oprah show that you should be able to laugh, cry, speak out and state your opinions in marriage. I have done all those and my husband still loves me. If you are in a relationship where you can’t do these things, break it off and don’t get married. But DO NOT snub marriage. It can be the most intimate and beautiful gift. WHY? Because God created it and said it was good.